Consider these words of wisdom
Prov. 12:11: The one who works his field will have plenty of food, but whoever chases daydreams lacks wisdom.
Prov. 14:23: In all hard work there is profit, but merely talking about it only brings poverty.
Prov. 13:11: Wealth gained quickly will dwindle away, but the one who gathers it little by little will become rich.
Prov. 19:15: Laziness brings on a deep sleep, and the idle person will go hungry.
With the above in mind ...
In Wednesday’s video I talked about two things: pick something and go with it, and put away social media when you’re grinding and hustling.
When it comes to chasing after, discovering, and then fulfilling your purpose the biggest obstacle in your life is … yourself - or more specifically your own mind. One thing that is sticking with me this week is the idea of changing the rules in my life.
What does that mean?
In his book Awaken the Giant Within, Tony Robbins talks about creating a master system in our lives and a component, or piece, of that master systems is a rule. He describes a rule as a type of belief that describes what has to happen in order for us to feel good. Not happy in your marriage? What’s your rule? Has your spouse not being or acting like the person you are desiring them to be? Robbins says that changing our rules “doesn’t rely on outside events, just changing your own thoughts which makes it a rule where it’s easy to feel pleasure and hard to feel pain.” So if your spouse isn’t acting like you think they should, change your rule to appreciate them for who they are.
I can attest to the fact that one component that I believe ended my marriage was because we were seeing what we wanted the other person to be, rather than who the other person was. We were both in love with someone else, but that “someone else” was a person who didn’t exist that we were hoping was somehow going to materialize within the other person. Rather than feeling pleasure from the other person, we were feeling pain.
Perhaps your job isn’t quite what you want and you are focused on the negative aspects. Perhaps you don’t like yourself because all you are focused on is something you believe about yourself. What is awesome is that we can change our present circumstance by changing our point of view in the moment. James Clear talks about our mindsets in a very similar way to Robbins. Clear points out that our mindset determines how pleasurable or painful the experience is, NOT THE ACTUAL EXPERIENCE ITSELF. We often say things like “I have to go to work,” or “I have to go out among people today” we can change our mindsets, and thus our attitude and character by simply thinking to ourselves “I get to … .” In other words, “instead of the word ‘have’ use ‘get’ = I get to exercise, I get to make breakfast, I get to wake up early … [it is] subtle nuance that makes all the difference.”
So what does this have to do with purpose? By making the inner decision to change our mindsets we begin to more fully actualize our purpose. We change our mindsets from fixed to growth. We make ourselves more available to new experiences and experimentation with how we go about our lives. We still need to do the daily grind, but now our day to day has purpose and makes us feel like we have purpose in our daily routines. We feel like our lives are headed somewhere. No doubt we’ll have days where we feel that life just sucks, and those will happen; this is where your close friends and family come in … or Netflix and video games. To continue the good habits however, never repeat a bad habit twice. You’re allowed one day, not two!
With the new mindset - and healthy mindset I’ll say - you can now, in this very moment, begin to move forward on your journey into discovering your purpose because every day becomes and adventure of discovery. Sound too good to be true?
Well ... what do you have to lose?!
Next Sunday talking about … Parable of the Talents
The Parable of the Talents is one of the parables of Jesus. It appears in two of the synoptic, canonical gospels of the New Testament: Matthew 25:14–30 Luke 19:11–27. This parable adds to our idea of compounding habits and becoming God’s likeness in the world.
Make sure you TUNE IN to the Sermon on Sunday at 9:00a, or better yet, join us if you’re close by!