This post could probably be better titled "reason verses emotion" but I believe that as people we are either rational people, or emotional people. I should say that what I am thinking and about to say is based on my own, limited, experience from within myself and what I see in those around me. So with that, I think that there are those who operate their lives in a more rational way, and those who live their lives based on a more emotional approach.
Both have positives, both have negatives. I'm not going to do a comparison game here, all I am going to say is that when it comes to living our lives we need to be aware of which 'mode' we operate in most of the time. For me I think I tend to be more emotional (I almost said rationale here - but I've learned my lessons!). I tend to be an over-thinker - like ... a way over-thinker! But thinking a lot about something doesn't make me a rational person. It makes me an emotional person, I believe.
Think about it! lol.
I am overthinking because I am emotionally invested somehow and am thinking so much about it because I am so emotionally invested. But talking with others helps me see things from different angles, and I feel better. So talking with other people about something they are not as emotionally invested in like I am helps me see more reason from an objective point of view. I balance out.
And we need balance in our lives!
This balance comes from true friends and family. We have gotten away from this for a huge variety of reasons, but the root reason, I think, is that we just don't really pay attention to it. Our attention is diverted in so many ways, and it isn't always because of social media - that has just exacerbated the issue.
Let me ask you a question: in the last week, have you felt that you have had a real conversation with a family member or friend in person (or by video).
The follow up question is: so what have you spent most of your time doing? Are you happy about how you've spent your time?
For me, I usually spend my time with things that distract me because I don't feel like doing other things that I know I need to be doing. So I operate and am motivated by how I feel, rather than goals I set. If you are a goal setter, make it a goal to have a good, personal conversation with a family member or close friend (in person or video) this week. Talk about stuff going on, what's on your mind, and see how they are doing and discuss their "stuff" too.
We need to stop tending toward one way or the other because we have closed ourselves off to learning and understanding how to react with one another, especially those close to us. And we need to stop allowing ourselves to get distracted away from those who ought to be close to us. When we start having those conversations, when balance comes, when we get the 'other perspective' we need, I truly think that will help us learn to talk with those who are further and further outside of our inner core.
And that is a good and wonderful thing.
Some "weekly" musings from Pastor Dave as he sits on his porch and drinks coffee, thinking about theology and lifting heavy weights. For gymsharks, there is something called "Flex Fridays," where we vainly put up photos of ourselves flexing. So this blog is my attempt to flex my theological muscles through reflection ... get it?